I've been having a hard time focusing in the last number of days - I've been preoccupied with news I heard last week. Last Tuesday, I heard from a friend who had just returned from attending her court date in Ethiopia. Without divulging anything that they have not already published on their blog, their court proceeding did not go well and that their adoption is in jeopardy. They are completely broken and hurting, having met the son that they were referred and having then been told that their adoption may not be proceeding.
Since hearing her news, I have felt shaken to the core. Until recently, the dream has always been to wait for the referral - the day we get to see our children's faces...then everything would be ok. But that's not true any more. I know from our own experience in August that receiving a referral is not the end of the story...it can be lost, as happened with us. But to get and accept a referral, start loving your child(ren), get assigned a court date, travel halfway around the world for that court date...only to learn that your adoption is in jeopardy???? That's terrifying.
I am absolutely heart sick for my friend. Though they have another court date towards the end of this month, they are not at all clear that this will end well, and fear that their child will be ripped from their heart and lives. I can hardly believe it has come to this for them. I have been on my knees praying for a miracle for them, praying that their dreams will yet come true.
It seems to me now that receiving a referral, while wonderful, is more like a blip on the radar screen; the real highlight to look forward to now is getting through court. There is no guarantee of completing one's family through international adoption until one walks through the doors of one's own airport with one's children.
If there are other pray-ers out there, please pray for a miracle for my friend...she's gonna need one.