tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post7037312233015742512..comments2023-10-23T20:14:05.916-05:00Comments on Ruth's Rambles...: Learning at Home: Part 4 of 9Hi from Ruth!http://www.blogger.com/profile/04696686601621200587noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post-50443001352845687392013-09-15T21:28:29.432-05:002013-09-15T21:28:29.432-05:00Thx for the thoughtful response, Carolyn! I didn&...Thx for the thoughtful response, Carolyn! I didn't read it as a critique or criticism, though I would have been ok with either. :)<br /><br />Love of self is on one of my lists so we think similarly on that point...however, rather than putting that on this list, I chose to include my hope that my kids have a healthy sense of identity. To me, something that's pretty close to love of self is ACCEPTANCE of self as the person God created us to be...this ties in well with your point about knowing oneself and operating out of that knowledge. I tend to believe, based on personal experience, that once we truly accept ourselves, we are in a far better position to recognize both our weaknesses and failings, and to acknowledge and love those things about ourselves that are good and honourable and righteous and well intentioned.<br /><br />On a side note, I'll have to go back and check my wording because I'm hoping I didn't actually use the word 'ambivalence.' I do want my children (and me) to learn to be deeply compassionate and tolerant for and of others, but I don't feel the same way about ambivalence...whether in myself, my kids, or in others. I also want them to understand the many issues of polarity in life, and I do allow them to struggle with decisions so that they can wrestle with mixed feelings - but I'm still not sure that I would label this ambivalence!<br /><br />Anyway, thanks for contributing to the discussion, Carolyn!! There's more to come and I hope you find something of value there, too.<br /><br />Blessings,<br /><br />RuthHi from Ruth!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04696686601621200587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post-50971119651006924752013-09-15T14:51:19.265-05:002013-09-15T14:51:19.265-05:00Hi Ruth...I love your list...and it reminds me of ...Hi Ruth...I love your list...and it reminds me of the many things I want my children to learn in my household as well. There is something I would add to your list...though it is already thoroughly included in how you parent...it just isn't named. And that is...in addition to loving God and neighbor...to loving self...to grow up believing that one is worthy of love and belonging. When Jesus invited us to "love our neighbors as ourselves" he realized that our ability to love others can be limited by how much we love ourselves. I'm not talking about raising entitled self centred narcissistic children...but children who have a reverence about their own value as unique and significant, even as others have their own value and significance. And that would continue to depth of relationship...to develop a depth of relationship with themselves, as well as God and others. As your point about understanding and tolerating ambivalence, polarities, multiple parts of themselves feeling very different ways simultaneously...knowing oneself and operating out of that knowledge makes for calm, informed, centred choices in relationships and the rest of life.<br />This isn't intended as criticism or even critique...I read how you already do this with your children...I just see other parents at times working on children and their love and relationships with God and with others, neglecting relationships with themselves as fundamental and an important prerequisite to other relationships. Thanx for you thoughtful series!!!Carolyn Bergenhttp://www.bergenandassociates.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post-42066801577602444552013-09-12T23:00:43.274-05:002013-09-12T23:00:43.274-05:00Thanks Missy...I KNEW this is how you'd reply!...Thanks Missy...I KNEW this is how you'd reply!<br /><br />Hugs,<br /><br />RuthHi from Ruth!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04696686601621200587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post-52759446590141293782013-09-12T23:00:17.302-05:002013-09-12T23:00:17.302-05:00ha ha...you have to wait for a few hours to find o...ha ha...you have to wait for a few hours to find out..though no big surprises, I think!<br /><br />RuthHi from Ruth!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04696686601621200587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post-48031466570007019502013-09-12T18:43:15.245-05:002013-09-12T18:43:15.245-05:00Ok, unless I missed it, I believe you are going to...Ok, unless I missed it, I believe you are going to say you are missing the Three Rs. But I think they are there, just not as obviously as you expected. I think they are there as tools rather than being the focus. Am I right? <br />EllenEllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687908042404975928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2528470033811673980.post-78269093202010638142013-09-12T16:16:17.611-05:002013-09-12T16:16:17.611-05:00I so agree.I so agree.rosedelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10908968324873154422noreply@blogger.com